Sunday, November 9, 2008

Understanding In-Laws.....

Sometimes I just can't figure out my in-laws....
They used to treat me like I was a loved daughter, better then they treated their own sons. Now they are cold to me which if fine with me but when they are also cold to my children I just can't understand that! No matter what my children do in the future I always want to have a bond with my future grandchildren. What is life without the love of your family.... They called our house on Friday night and talked to my husband his mother told him "It's been six weeks since YOU have been over to see us", She never mentioned Kris or Kelly. They don't invite us over for dinner, not even Thanksgiving. I tried to stay in contact with them by sending up-date e-mails to my mother-in-law but the last one I sent I had to about beg her to let me know she had been reciving the e-mails because I hadn't heard back from her. You would think when a grandmother read that her grand-daughter was having to take advil every day to ward off the toothaches she has been having you would step in and get this girls teeth fixed. These people are VERY well off, money is not an issue for them so I am not sure why they would let their grandaughter suffer needlessly. They are the most self-centered people I have ever meet, they want to tell you their problems but not hear about yours, they want you to bend over backwards for them but they don't care to help us ect. I am sure you know the type but what get's me is these people are now into their middle 70's wouldn't you want to love your grandchildren in the twilight of your years? I guess I will keep sending her the up-date e-mails and try and stay a possitive person even though these people sure try my patients.

2 comments:

Red said...

Are these their biological grandchildren? If so then it is their loss. And that old adage, 'What goes around comes around.' That will serve them well.

It may not be in this life, but they will get what is due them. I do not mean to come off as evil sounding, but you will only get you give out. It's the Law of Attraction.

Kate said...

I think I understand a little of what you are going through. It helped me a lot, when I finally looked at it from their point of view. It is their money. They worked for it. I am not entitled to a dime of it. If they choose to help or choose to be part of our lives, I will receive them with open arms and their help graciously. If they choose not to involve themselves, they must have a good reason. God is our final judge and looks on a person's heart. I cannot see the heart and therefore must not judge.

It took a long while to get to this point. But I will tell you this sort of thinking brings a lot of peace as does forgiveness.